When I am asked how to do something my usual response is “That’s easy!” The thought behind my statement is that I can quickly handle that request or I can quickly teach the person how to do something or can explain it in just a few sentences or that the person asking will be able to master it in just a few minutes.
What I have come to understand is that it is often mistaken for “That’s so simple you should be able to do it without asking me” or “It may be too difficult for you to do but I can do it without any problems” or “Everyone knows how to do that already, why don’t you?”
Unfortunately, my use of “That’s easy!” has led to people deciding they would rather struggle with something instead of asking for help. They choose to make it harder when it could be easy.
I have also come to recognize that what’s easy for me may not really be easy for someone else. Each person has differing strengths and weaknesses. Each person has areas they can master and areas that they will never be able to grasp.
But the common hindrance seems to be pretty consistent. Pride.
“That’s easy!”, instead of being reassuring, pushes the pride defense button. The focus shifts from the original task or issue and becomes something deeper and personal. Instead of being open to learning and understanding, something raises up inside that brings the whole process to a grinding halt and often makes the whole situation worse instead of better. So what’s the solution?
That’s easy! Just stop saying “That’s easy!”
(Harder than it sounds.)