Today’s guest blogger is an old friend. I first met him around a “campfire” in a land of Warriors and Beauties far, far away. The wonder of the internet makes such things possible. On the eve of releasing his first book I ask you, dear readers, to get a big cup of coffee and settle in to read the story and heart of David Felts, God’s 1st Knight.
Change, Life’s Little Surprise Bringer
You know there is one thing in this life that shouldn’t surprise us, and that is that change is inevitable. If you don’t believe me, take a look at a picture of yourself when you were younger and then go look in the mirror. No matter how much we whine, cry or complain, change is coming for us, so we better just embrace it and make the most of it.
In the past 47 years, I’ve experienced quite a bit of change, some of it great and some of it not so great. The one constant thing regardless of whatever life has brought me, which I have, really only come to realize in the past 20 some years, is that Jesus is my Lord and Savior. And regardless of whatever happens, He never changes. He is the same yesterday, today and forever. (Hebrews 13:8) Of course it is what “we” do with change that will either makes us or breaks us.
As a way of showing you what I mean, let me share one of my stories about change with you. The day was Tuesday, April 6, 2010. My bride of 23 years and I were preparing to facilitate a class about marriage at our church that evening, something the two of us were very excited to have the opportunity to do. She had returned home from work to pick up our two children, April (15) and Noah (13). The plan was for them to babysit any kids that came with their parents that night.
When Cheryl arrived home, she went into the house and called for the kids. My daughter came out of her bedroom and was asked where Noah was. She said she didn’t know, and they both went outside to look for him. He loves climbing trees, so they thought he might be up in one. When they couldn’t find him, they became a little concerned, and going back into the house, Cheryl stepped into his bedroom, where she found that he had hung himself in his closet.
The next couple of days are a blur in my memory. This is not to say that I don’t remember every vivid detail, and at times certain things will bring them flooding back to my remembrance with a vengeance. Suffice it to say, change had come to the Felts family, and there was nothing good about this change. Let me explain to you here also, that Noah was not depressed, nor were there any warning signs leading up to the decision to end his life. In a moment of extreme emotional turmoil, Noah made a rash decision and then acted on it. All of it happening in just a few minutes. He never thought his actions through to their conclusion; otherwise he would not have done it.
I know beyond a shadow of doubt that my son Noah is in Heaven with Jesus. And yes, that does bring a little comfort, but I’m here to tell you if it had not been for Jesus and my relationship with Him I don’t think that any of us would have made it through that horrible, awful time. The devil is a punk, and I know that one day he will pay for the destruction he brought to our family and many, many others just like ours. And please, if you are reading this and you feel that there is no other way out except for suicide, let me tell you now that the damage you will bring to your family and friends is not worth it. Talk to someone right now and if you don’t have anyone, call me. (918-636-0049)
Listen, change can be difficult if you choose to let it be. What most people spend their lives doing is trying to figure out what happened, and why the change showed up, or they just run from it. I understand those desires, I’ve experienced them, but what I’ve learned is more important than that, is the knowledge that we have a choice to make, and what we decide to do with that choice is what will help us to overcome or be defeated.
I’m reminded of this scene from the movie “The Lion King”. It’s where Rafiki shows up to help Simba find the path back to his rightful place in the circle of life, and to stop living only for himself. Here is the transcript of that interaction:
Rafiki: “Ahh, change is good.”
Simba: “Yeah, but it’s not easy. I know what I have to do…but going back means that I’ll have to face my past. I’ve been running from it for so long.”
Rafiki: [Whacks Simba on the head with his staff.]
Simba: “Ow! Jeez, what was that for?”
Rafiki: “It doesn’t matter. It’s in the past. Ha ha ha!”
Simba: “Yeah but it still hurts.”
Rafiki: “Oh, yes, the past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it…or learn from it.” [Swings staff and this time Simba ducks.]
“Ah – you see? So, what are you going to do?”
Simba: “First, I’m gonna take your stick.”
Rafiki: No, no, no, no! Not the stick! Hey where are you going?”
Simba: “I’m going back!”
That is how we need to be in life. When change comes, we need to learn from it and then apply those lessons we have learned to help us walk away from the change better people, ready to give an answer for the hope that is within us. And I’m living proof that it is possible. People tell me all the time that what my family has gone through is the toughest of all possible things. I don’t deny that, but the only reason this change didn’t destroy us, is because of our relationship with Jesus and the knowledge that God is only “for” us and not against us.
In John 10:10, Jesus states it pretty plainly that our enemy, the enemy of all mankind, the devil is only out to steal, kill and destroy. He follows that thought with the fact that He (Jesus) has come to bring us life and that life is to be full. There are your job descriptions for Jesus and the devil. If anything is stolen, killed or destroyed in your life, it is because of the devil. And if there is anything good in your life, it is because of Jesus. That’s a pretty simplistic view of things, but you know, that is what gave me the ability to live through the death of my son and not be crushed.
If you have experienced some change in your life that didn’t make sense, then I hope that my writing has helped to bring you a little more clarity. And if change didn’t cause you to be confused, it is my prayer that I was able to add to what you already believe to be true. Regardless of where you are at, it is my prayer that you meet this Jesus that I talked about. Deciding to make Him my Lord was the best thing I’ve ever done, and I’d love to tell you more about Him.
If you would like to know more about Jesus, I would be happy to send you information, just email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I’ll send you some materials. Thanks to Lana Vaughan for allowing me this opportunity to guest write for her blog. Strength and honor for the Kingdom and the King!
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