Lana Vaughan

The Queen of Questions

End of a Chapter

People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.


When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend too you, and they are. They are there for a reason, you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.


LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway);, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life…..

The first time I read this passage it was sent to me by my husband while we were dating. I wasn’t sure which part he was emphasizing at the time. I’m very glad it was the third part.  Today I share it with you to mark the passing of a place and time and cast of characters who are coming to the end of a special chapter. They have definitely been brought together for many reasons and for overlapping and intertwining seasons. Many have made lifetime commitments and new life has come from that.

Today the Ransomed forum will stop accepting new posts and in a month will be removed from the internet. For the past 5 years I have been a part of the community of saints and sinners and pirates, cowboys, clowns and kings, warriors and beauties, sages and queens who have been collected under a loosely held banner seeking fellow sojourners in the journey of life. Last call has been sounded and it’s time to move on but it’s not the end of the story only time to turn the page.

The song I leave you with today may not be familiar but the words express my heart…

Be of good courage God spoke unto Joshua
When o’er the river God pointed the way
Jordan uncrossable, things seemed impossible
Waters divide as they march and obey
Got any rivers you think are uncrossable?
Got any mountains you can’t tunnel through?
God specialises in things thought impossible
And does the things that others cannot do.
Battles to win they would meet with their obstacles
Jericho’s walls too must, fall to the ground
God never failed He stood back of his promises
Walls had to crumble as they marched around
God is the same and His Word is dependable
He’ll make a way through the water’s for you
Life’s situations by Him are amendable
Mountains and Hills
He will part for you too

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5 Replies

  1. I was not aware of the “it’s for a season” aspect of some relationships until a couple of years ago. I would spend inordinate amounts of time mourning lost relationships and wonder what went wrong, was it something I did, and so on. Nowadays I still mourn, but for a more appropriate amount of time (I hope, anyway). I think that it is healthy to mourn lost relationships while remembering that it was for a season and a time.

    Thanks for sharing!


  2. Charlie

    This article is so fitting for so many reasons. The concept of God bringing and taking people our of our lives is so interesting. I think that maybe if we expect as we meet someone it is for a season and ask Him what we should do with our time, we can appreciate it so much more. I think it is when we try to fill a part of our life that feels empty, the end of the season hurts all the more. maybe?

  3. Laura SHort

    So very, very true. Reasons, Seasons, and Life. It was an interesting lesson to find that what I believed to be a Life, turned out to be a Season; what I believed to be a Reason, turned out to be a Season, and so on and so on.

    God is showing me the Way of the Pretzel. ;p Be flexible.

    God has also taught me the hard lesson against squandering. Do not squander your time. Live eternally imminent.

    I’ve read the whole of your blog, Lana, and I really like it here. Thank you.

  4. Matt

    In many ways this also holds true for our children. They have left the nest (all but one) and are now starting new lives of their own. I hear less and less from them and communication is all but one direction. Do we let them go like other friendships or do we try to keep this alive? I’ve heard it stated you only call on special occasions, but when am I suppose to call?

    I guess part of having children living far away is how to communicate without being a pest. My parents would only call if there was trouble or to invite us to a family cabin BBQ. It was the way my mom’s family communicated. Every month or so there was a big BBQ at the cabin. Now that’s gone I’m at a loss on how to communicate.

    1. Suzanne Parks


      Chris (my Chris) has been on a journey the last few years trying to reconnect with his father and his siblings. They have never been a close family, as we have been raising our children it is really important to have relationships in our children’s lives that are healthy and meaningful. Chris has really spent a great deal of time working on his relationship with his father as a result. Getting over hurt feelings and trying to get out of the “well you could pick up the phone” instead if a week goes by he will email or call his dad. He is doing the same with his siblings.

      I pray that the Lord brings your children closer to you in time.

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